People with bipolar are often unaware of the effects the disorder has on family and friends. Watch as Gabe and his parents discusses this together.
Gabe: Hello, my name is Gabe Howard with bphope.com and the bipolar magazine online community. For this vlog I have brought along……my parents! Believe it or not, I am related to them. What we are going to talk about is if they had any inclination that I had bipolar disorder and how we got through some of the tough times.
So I’m going to throw it over to my mother, first. Mom, when I was younger, did you suspect that I had bipolar disorder?
Susan: No, I knew nothing about bipolar.
Gabe: And when I got sicker and sicker, did you think that it was any sort of mental illness? Or did you sort of side with Dad that you could punish these symptoms out of me?
Susan: Hmm, never really thought about it. We knew that you were either up or down, and we suggested counseling at that point.
Gabe: That is true, you took me to a psychologist when I was, what, 14?
Susan: When you were 8.
Gabe: When I was 8? But that was for lying, if I’m not mistaken, right? Now, when I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder as an adult, I hid the symptoms for a long time because I didn’t understand that there was anything wrong.
Dad, you were definitely on the “we can punish Gabe into submission” train because you didn’t understand that there was anything wrong.
Gary: Well, I always thought that, if you do a strict enough punishment, they will correct themselves. But after a time, you have to back up, and figure out what is going on.
Gabe: So, one of the things I think people want to know is it’s not uncommon for this to happen. Many parents, and many families, are like, “He or she acted out; we punished them; they kept acting out; and we didn’t know what to do.”
After you found out that I was sick and you thought back to all those punishments, how did that make you feel?
Gary: Not good. Because some of the punishments I did were way overboard. I thought it was just you acting up and not the bipolar.
Gabe: So it turns out that if you understand what is going on you can get to-
Gary (interrupting): Deal with it.
Gabe: Yeah, you can deal with it. A lot of times, what we talk about in mental health advocacy is it’s not about doing nothing; it’s about doing the right thing. I was lucky. I had a good, supportive family, and they have not yet abandoned me. I’m very grateful about that. In fact, I got them all on board with the GabeHoward.com clothing line.
So having a supportive family really allowed me to get better, and having access to medical care allowed me to get better. And that’s something that a lot of people don’t have.
So thank you, Mom and Dad, for agreeing to be on bphope.com and the bipolar magazine online community.
What I would like to throw out there for all the parents and everybody out there: what are some things that parents and family and friends can do to help their loved ones who have bipolar disorder to lead better lives? We have to bridge the gaps so we can all move forward.
So, I’m Gabe Howard with bphope.com and I will see you next week, or next month!
Gabe Howard is a popular speaker, writer, and advocate who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. He is an award-winning writer and the creator of the official bipolar shirt. (Get yours now!) Gabe can be reached on Facebook, via email, or via his website, www.GabeHoward.com.
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