Just because we can’t control a situation doesn’t mean anxiety will stay dormant. To break the anxiety-control-anxiety cycle, practice just letting it go.
I found myself in a peculiar situation this earlier this morning as I was waiting for the contractor coming to fix my fence.
I’d emailed him the day before letting him know I had a meeting to be at 10:00. He responded saying he’d be here before 10:00.
When I woke up, I was already a little on the anxious side – I had a new workshop I was presenting today: Mindfulness Made Simple!
As the morning progressed, I could feel myself getting more anxious as this battle of thoughts took place in my head:
‘What if I he doesn’t get here by the time I need to leave?’
‘He said he would be here – did I make a mistake hiring this company?’
‘He knew I had to leave for my meeting at 10:00, where is he’
I could feel myself getting even more anxious and as I did, I found myself getting short tempered.
I remember at one point starting to get angry with my dogs for doing something they do every day!
It was at that moment I realized I had to do SOMETHING.
I asked myself this simple question… “Is there anything I can DO to control when he gets here?”
My answer: NO – I have no control over it.
I had to “Let it go”.
Wow! The anxiety that had been building up all morning long, suddenly vanished. I felt RELIEF!
I realized that when I couldn’t CONTROL things is when I began to feel more & more anxious…
And the more I tried to CONTROL things around me!
It becomes a destructive cycle: anxiety – try to control – anxiety – try to control – ANXIETY – try to control….
So, the next time you’re in a situation where you’re feeling stuck, or out of control, or anxious – use this same LifeTOOL:
Step 1: Ask yourself this question out loud: “Is there anything I can DO to control _________ (fill in the blank!).”
Step 2: If not – LET IT GO!
~ To Living Well TODAY! ~.
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