I did a workshop yesterday and a question came up at the end I thought important to share.
A woman described how she works in a situation which has her so stressed out that her hair is falling out and asked what she could do.
Now, I am sure many of you might be thinking: ‘Find another job!’
However, some people simply CAN’T.
- You are 6 months away from retirement.
- You have 20+ years in at a company and only 2 more to go.
- Financially, you have no choice but to stay.
There are 3 LifeTOOLS I offered, the exact same ones I used when I was once in her situation.
Turn your office / desk in to a calm, peaceful, and safe oasis.
This means you fill it using as many of the 5 senses that are soothing and calming!
Hear: I had soothing music always playing very low in the background. (the kind they play in spas!)
See: I had pictures and quotes which helped ‘anchor’ me in a calm & peaceful place. (Kids, family, pets, quotes)
Smell: I had my favorite candle (Sage & Citrus) on a warmer plate & my lotion which was the same smell.
Touch: This could be a squish ball, stress ball, magnets, whatever works for you – I had a favorite bear pen from Yellowstone!
Taste: I had my gum! This could be a favorite tea or seltzer.
LifeTOOL # 2
STOP complaining about your boss & the situation.
Oprah said it best: “What you focus on EXPANDS.” In a way, we are just fueling the fire when we keep talking about it.
I found when I stopped focusing on how bad it was – it got better! Here’s what it does (taken from my WordTool Book Series):
LifeTOOL # 3
Set clear boundaries between work and home.
I tried a lot of different things until I created “Dump It”. Here’s what to do every time you leave work:
Step 1 – Imagine you’re wearing a backpack and it’s filled with ALL the ‘crap from the workday’.
Step 2 – Walk by a garbage can on your way out the door to go home & imagine yourself DUMPING the backpack in to the garbage can. When work starts to creep in to your thoughts at home – picture the backpack in the garbage can! Tell yourself you’ll pick it up when you’re back at work.
Step 3 – Walk by that same garbage can as you go in to work and imagine you’re picking up that backpack because you’re NOW back at work!
REPEAT EVERY DAY!!
Let me know in the comment box below if you’ve had to deal with a toxic work situation.
~ To Living Well TODAY! ~
via Esperanza – Hope To Cope
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