I had the opportunity to meet a super group of ladies who attended a seminar I gave on balancing work & life.
When I asked “How many of you ladies will actually schedule time for some fun in your day?”, I got all “no’s” except for one person, Mary.
“For 1 hour every night, I lock myself in the bathroom and soak in the tub.”
When one of the other women noted she couldn’t do that – she’d feel too guilty, Mary replied:
“I don’t feel guilty one bit!”
Ah, what a refreshing answer!
But even more importantly, what an inspiring answer!
Over the 25 years I’ve been working with people, one of the biggest barriers I’ve discovered to SELF CARE has been GUILT.
In case you missed them, I wrote two great posts on GUILT back in April.
So, the fact that Mary was able to say: “I don’t feel guilty one bit.” was such a refreshing thing to hear!
Hoping she could lead the way and help others take a step in this SELF CARE direction, I asked her how she got started. This was her response:
“I told the kids, unless there was a limb hanging or blood dripping, whatever they wanted from me could wait until I was done.”
She went on to share how she could sometimes here the kids at the door talking about how much longer till she was done!
The silver lining here is what she is also teaching her children in the process. A very critical LifeTOOL that many children do not learn:
Recognizing limits or boundaries.
This includes not taking it personal when someone says ‘no’ to them and just as importantly, how to set limits & boundaries themselves!
Of course, Mary does this while her husband is home – so it’s not like the kids are being left completely unsupervised…
The need for scheduling SELF CARE time is just as critical if you are in the role of being a caregiver.
So, my hope in sharing Mary’s story is that it will help inspire you to make SELF CARE become a part of your life…
Even if it’s just 5 minutes – that counts!
~ To Living Well TODAY! ~
via Esperanza – Hope To Cope
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