Do you ever find yourself wishing people in your life would pay more
attention to what you have to say?
Do you ever feel like you’re talking and nobody’s listening?
The LifeTOOL I want to share with you today can help change that!
WARNING: As I have written before, we CAN’T change other people.
This is not about changing anyone else! It’s about changing one
thing WE DO.
To help illustrate the power of this LifeTOOL, I want to share the
experience that led to my discovering it.
Many, many years ago I called a girlfriend of mine. I had just recently
experienced a break up and NEEDED to talk.
After being on the phone with her for 10 minutes, crying and sharing my
feelings she said this to me:
“Carol, can I call you back a little later? I am right in the middle of helping
the kids with their homework.”
I was PISSED OFF – not that she was getting off the phone to help her kids
with their homework.
I was PISSED OFF she let me go on for 10 minutes before saying something.
I was PISSED OFF she let me think she was listening to me when she really wasn’t.
So from that point on in my life, whenever I call someone, the very first
thing I say to them is:
“Did I catch you in the middle of something?” or
“Is now a good time for you to talk?”
However, this goes beyond the conversations we have on the phone!
This LifeTOOL applies to ALL of our conversations!
This is the #1 communication rule I teach –
Just because the person is standing in front of us, doesn’t mean
their mind and attention are there too.
Begin each conversation with any of the following:
“Do you have a few moments to talk?” or
“Can I talk with you?” or
“Is now a good time to talk?”
AND when they say it is not a good time – DON’T start talking!
You can walk away and try again at another time or you can ask:
“What would be a better time?” or
“Could you tell me when you might have some free time to talk?”
Let me know how you’re doing in the comment section below!
~ To Living Well TODAY! ~
via Esperanza – Hope To Cope
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