I have a girlfriend who decided she was going to get a tattoo. They certainly aren’t for me, but I wanted to support her!
She did her homework & found what she felt was the right place, the right design, and got it done.
The problem came about a week later…
I noticed she was kind of not being herself and asked if everything was okay.
“I’m disappointed and upset with how my tattoo came out.” she said to me.
I reminded her she really couldn’t tell how it was going to turn out since the healing process had not taken place.
She responded: “You’re right. I need to give it some time.”
So, I notice 2 minutes later, after just saying she needed to give it some time, she is on her phone looking up tattoo stuff!
No wonder she is feeling so crappy… she keeps FUELING the feelings.
But that got me thinking…
How many other people do this without even realizing they’re doing it?!
Are you making situations worse by fueling the feelings?
There are actually two ways this happens –
#1 – With behaviors: Like my girlfriend constantly looking on line!
#2 – With thinking: Dwelling on the situation or the feeling itself.
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The way to STOP fueling the feelings is to CHANGE your behavior or CHANGE your thinking.
A couple of LifeTOOLS that work great for this are “Take A Brain Dump!” and “Positive Thinking Jumper Cables”.
Here’s how to “Take a Brain Dump!” –
- Get a piece of paper to write on (can be scrap paper – recycling is good for the environment!) & something to write with.
- Start writing! It’s important to just let whatever comes out, come out. Don’t try thinking – Just write!
- DO NOT READ WHAT YOU JUST WROTE.
- Properly get rid of the paper! (You can do this by shredding, burning, or flushing – if you use a sharpie & toilet paper!)
Here’s how to use “Positive Thinking Jumper Cables” –
Say the following sentence out loud:
“It could be worse….” (finish the sentence with HOW it could be worse!) This forces your brain to STOP focusing on the negative and instead focus on a positive.
Go ahead and give them a try! Let me know what you think by leaving a comment below.
~ To Living Well TODAY! ~
via Esperanza – Hope To Cope
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