Setting up a time period for yourself where you can feel sorry for yourself only during that time can help when self-pity seems overwhelming.
by Carol Rickard
I met an amazing person who inspired this post and sharing of an old LifeTOOL.
There is much in life we will never get to control…The important question is: How do we respond?
The person I am referring to had many losses, which just seemed to stack up on each other.
His mother had passed away just a month ago, his grandfather had passed a few days ago, and he had recently lost his house to a fire, which almost killed him.
And yet, here he is sitting with me, sharing how grateful he was to have been able to make it out of the house alive.
I was truly inspired.
As I was driving home, I began to think about the opposite of grateful:
Over the past 25 years, I’ve worked with so many people who seemed to get stuck in it.
And the truth be told, they had plenty of good reason to feel that way — they had endured unimaginable losses and traumas.
So I would share with them, this LifeTOOL I learned on Oprah some 15 years ago.
Oprah’s guest, Jacqueline Saburido, had been burned over 60% of her body as the result of a teenage drunk driver; her face was severely disfigured.
Jacqui shared it was her cousin who said to her:
“You can only have 5 minutes a day to cry & feel sorry for yourself.”
By allowing herself to have these 5 minutes to let it all out, Jacqui does two very important things:
- Honors her feelings.
- Doesn’t give PITY a chance to build up and TRAP HER.
So the key to this LifeTOOL is setting up a time period for yourself where you can feel sorry for yourself…AND only do it during that time!
This way you’re not holding everything inside, there by, never giving PITY a chance to build up and TRAP YOU.
Let me know below in a comment if you already do this or something else!
~ To Living Well TODAY! ~
via Esperanza – Hope To Cope
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