Let me ask you a question…
Do you find it hard to accept a compliment?
Do you notice yourself needing to say something after you receive a compliment?
If so, you are not alone!
I used to REALLY struggle with this, and I still do at times – like just this morning!
The funny thing is, I was already thinking about writing on this topic when lo and behold I did this very thing.
Someone had given me a compliment about my writing for Esperanza. They were around when I started over 4 years ago.
I started to “explain things” and then I caught myself!
Okay! I guess this is what I am supposed to write about this week.
I had someone a long time ago call my attention to this and another bad habit I had: often saying “I’m sorry” (that’s a whole other post!).
I want to share with you exactly what they told me:
“When someone gives you a compliment simply say, ‘Thank you’ and nothing else.”
Now, this sounds much simpler than it is, meaning it does require some mental work to put it in to practice.
I would catch myself starting to say something back & then remember the “Thank you”!
The more I caught myself – the EASIER it became!
It’s kind of like when you exercise a muscle – it gets stronger.
So, the more you exercise your ‘thank you muscle’ – the better!
What I’ve come to understand is when we say something back after a compliment, it is slowly undermining our self-esteem.
Quite honestly, it doesn’t matter WHY we do it…
We feel unworthy.
We feel guilty.
We feel it’s being self-centered.
By using this simple LifeTOOL of saying “Thank you” we are taking charge of building our SELF ESTEEM!
Let me know your thoughts in the comment box below.
~ To Living Well TODAY! ~
via Esperanza – Hope To Cope
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