I’ve noticed over the past few weeks, I’ve been struggling with this strange sense of sadness.
It’s taken me a little while to figure it out and what I’ve come to realize is that its really disappointment…
So, today I want to share with you the LifeTOOL I am using to deal with it!
The disappointment is the feeling connected to having set certain goals or “Success Destinations” and then NOT reaching them.
The new year not only brought the opportunity to set NEW goals and priorities, it also highlights the ones we may have set last year and NOT reached.
What helped me figure things out was noticing the self-talk I had going on in my brain!
Here’s some of the self-talk I noticed I was doing:
- ‘I thought I’d be further along than where I am.’
- I’m stuck in the same place.’
- I haven’t made any progress.’
- ‘I said I would, and I haven’t.’
I want to point out that we have to be very careful…
If we stay stuck in the feeling – it has the potential to spiral out of control.
At the same time, if we avoid the feeling – it too has the potential to spiral out of control.
In a sense, it’s creating a balance between allowing & honoring the feeling while not fueling it.
So, the LifeTOOL I’ve been using to help me deal with the disappointment is this:
I have purposely shifted my focus AWAY from what I didn’t do or accomplish and TOWARDS identifying what I am grateful for!
The secret to having success with this LifeTOOL is to NOT try to do it in your head, but to write it down on paper, in your journal, or even on an index card (You can carry it around with you!)
What I’ve come to see is that even though I may not be where it is that I thought I would be, there is a lot that I have gained & am grateful for.
Do you have another way you deal with disappointment you can share? If so, share it in the comment box below!
~ To Living Well TODAY! ~
via Esperanza – Hope To Cope
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