When one spouse in a marriage has depression, healthy partnerships have these habits in common:
#1 They separate the illness from the person
The spouse without depression takes an objective outlook on the situation. Instead of seeing the whole person as ‘depressed’ he or she separates the illness from the person and just deals with the symptoms. In doing this, the spouse is able to see the person that he/she fell in love with and married.
#2 They work as a team
The successful couple has open and honest conversations about the spouse’s depression, discussing such things as added responsibilities, finances, threat of suicide etc… Both realize the importance of trying to participate in social activities together especially since it’s very common for those with depression to withdraw from their spouse and avoid social situations.
#3 They seek the help they need
They both do what it takes to make their partnership work. This includes the spouse with depression seeking such help as medication or psychotherapy, or perhaps both people attending marital counseling. Knowing the other is doing what he or she can to help the other can sometimes make all the difference when times get rough, and one person is taking on more responsibilities with household chores, children and finances.
related: Depression & Your Marriage
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